13. DATING with intention & confidence; You’re not “needy”, you just have needs! W/ therapist & dating coach Kelsey Wonderlin
Welp, Magic Makers- this is for SURE the most vulnerable I’ve felt pressing “record” on a podcast conversation, but also probably the most fun! It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship, single and not really looking, or if you’re dating and ready to call in that ideal partner - there is something valuable in this conversation for you!
Now I know this is the least “business-y” pod episode so far, but this conversation deals a ton with understanding how to communicate in such a way that we attract the best, most aligned people to us AND repel the people who aren’t aligned with our core values. Which, by the by, is SUPER valuable in business as well as relationships.
So, what are we gettin’ into today? Well, Magic Maker, today we’re diving deep into DATING, and specifically, how to identify our core values and practice self love (even after you’ve swiped right). I mean, hey...it IS “cuffing season” after all! Which is why I invited therapist and dating coach Kelsey Wonderlin to come share her thoughts on the subject.
A few years ago, Kelsey Wonderlin found herself in a pickle. She was learning so much about herself and how humans can get healthy through her psychology training, but she couldn’t find many helpful resources when it came to relationships and calling in her dream partner. Now, after developing her own successful dating app strategy (she’s now engaged to her dream partner and co-creating a healthy relationship with him), she uses her experience and her psychology training to help singles optimize their dating profiles and build healthy partnerships.
In fact - and this is where it gets vulnerable for me! - she actually helped ME do this a few weeks ago. Now, I get it, the immediate knee jerk reaction of most people is to ask about the juicy gossip surrounding the relationship and/or the guy - but the *really* juicy stuff is how I had to dig deep and get incredibly honest with myself about what I actually want from a partnership...and what I actually believe I deserve. And BOY HOWDY was that a vulnerable wake-up call for me lemmetellya.
Cuz here’s the thing: self love and romantic love are absolutely inextricably linked. In this episode, Kelsey and I talk through ways to identify your core values, find the courage to communicate those values (via a dating app, to a partner, or even just to yourself), and continue the work even after we find a partner by learning to regulate our emotions and practice self love.
CONNECT WITH KELSEY WONDERLIN (my guest!):
Find Kelsey on Instagram where she shares all the best dating and relationship resources; her Magnetic Dating Lab and Dating App Bio Masterclass (which I can personally recommend) are both linked on her page!
https://www.instagram.com/kelseywonderlin/
CONNECT WITH KELSEY FORMOST (your host!):
Kelsey’s Website: http://www.kelseyformost.com
Kelsey’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/keformost
Kelsey’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelsey.writes/
Kelsey’s Courses: https://kelseyformost.com/courses
Original Themesong composed by Jules Grant https://www.instagram.com/j.u.l.e.s.g.r.a.n.t/
Produced by Hayleigh Hayhurst https://www.espressopodcastproduction.com/
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